PREDICAMENTS: CREATING MAGIC OUT OF MADNESS

Jan Smith discusses how, during this high activity time of year, it’s important to avoid quick fixes to life’s dilemmas. Life is full of predicaments -- like the one I faced this week. I have pressing business matters to handle before year-end, yet I also really need time with my sweetheart, time for shopping, and time for my own year-end reflection work. How does one fit it all in?

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Posted on Thursday, December 1, 2005 at 11:40AM by Registered CommenterJan Smith | Comments Off | EmailEmail

Metaphors: The Key to Unlocking Life

Human beings have a love affair with certainty. Even when our patterns in life are unproductive, we often go to a great deal of trouble to protect them. Like a dog chasing its tail, we take the same actions over and over, even when they no longer serve us. One way to unlock the present from the past is to discover your unconscious metaphors that are shaping your thoughts, perceptions and actions. Once you understand the metaphors of your past, then you can invent new metaphors, creating a new reality, consciously.

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Posted on Friday, July 1, 2005 at 11:43AM by Registered CommenterJan Smith | Comments Off | EmailEmail

Conversation Crossroads

But of course we strive for perfection in the relationships and situations that matter most. We avoid difficult conversations we dread – conversations that may influence our future in negative ways that are unacceptable to us. Because no matter how confident or competent we are as leaders, we think these conversations won’t always go as well as we like, no matter how hard we work at them or how gifted we are at getting along with others. I used to wait until I had a difficult conversation “right” in my head before I actually had it. I wanted to be sure my approach was a real “scenario survivor” before I tried it out on another person.

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Posted on Monday, November 1, 2004 at 11:54AM by Registered CommenterJan Smith | Comments Off | EmailEmail

Seeing Beyond Filters

How things look to us depends upon how we look at them. Unconsciously, we filter our experience through lenses we develop as young children. Do these lenses help us focus in ways that open us to larger perspectives and higher purposes? Or do they cloud our vision by coloring it with doubt and suspicion?

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Posted on Thursday, April 1, 2004 at 11:48AM by Registered CommenterJan Smith | Comments Off | EmailEmail